Wednesday, May 19, 2010

Reality 101

Our phone rang at 6.15am. It was my cousin, the one I am very close to, the one I speak with weekly especially as her parents have declined in health. My wonderful, loving uncle passed away this morning. Talk about the universe giving a proverbial slap in the face, whilst I have allowed myself to be beaten down by this campaign of hate, he has been fighting cancer. We knew it was coming, but it is still heartbreaking when it actually happens. I wrote of him here. After the initial dire prognosis he had rallied, and remained in his own home until very recently. We saw both him and my Aunt in January, at home, happy.


Of course, once he was in the nursing home and they processed his diagnosis, the morphine was pumped in. Now, after not getting much sense from my heartbroken cousin, I sit and wonder what took his life. The cancer that had seemed to slow incredibly, or the morphine they administer so forcefully.


RIP Uncle Darleigh, you were well loved and will be truly missed. Say hello to the old bugger for me, I'm sure he'll be at the gate waiting.

Now I must organise my final journey to see him. I do not know how my Aunt will go on without him, they lived for each other.

11 comments:

Wendy aka Quillfeather said...

Very sad to hear the news. My heart goes out to your family, especially his wife.

RIP Darleigh.

Thea said...

I'm so sorry to hear this news.
Thinking of you and your whole extended family. xx

PinkPatentMaryJanes said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's so sad to lose such a much-loved individual. Uncle Darleigh and your aunt look so gorgeous together - how lucky they were to share such a love for so long - but how terribly sad that it's ended. Love and hugs xxx

Wanderlust said...

MM, I'm so sorry to hear of your family's loss. My thoughts are with you, having to sustain this on top of everything else. Take care of yourself. xo

Lori @ RRSAHM said...

:( Last thing you need right now.

And you, my dear, are a *writer*. No question.

Toni said...

Oh I'm so so sorry. My thoughts are with all of you now but most especially for your aunt; to lose her husband after so long together must be utterly heart-wrenching.

Kakka said...

Echoing all the thoughts above. Big hugs for you and your Aunt and Cousin (and any one else who needs them). Much love xxx

Kim Thompson said...

Oh, so sorry to hear this. I lost my beloved Grandma to cancer a few months ago and it was swift and merciless. Warmth and peace go out to you.

Kitty Moore said...

I'm very sorry for your loss - my heart goes out to your family, particularly your aunt.

Melissa said...

I'm so sorry for your loss, Tan. I know how much he meant to you. My hope is that the morphine was a blessing and simply helped make his passing more peaceful.

Twee internet hugs for you, my friend. I wish I could offer a real one.

Seraphim said...

I am so sorry for your loss. I read your blog comment and I wanted to stop by and say what you are going through will pass. You will survive this. And I'm sending you lots of love and good wishes. x