Tuesday, May 31, 2011

I am Different, We are Different. The ASD Journey.

We have always swum against the flow, run against the crowd. In my heart, and that of my husband, we have never felt the standard or popular approach is what would help our son. OUR SON. Not the teachers' nor the specialists', nor other parents'... OURS. And for that many have belittled, derided and questioned our approach. Our outside the square ideas and ideals, our belief in our child.

I must admit it grates when someone can't see the trees for the forest, when others still don't get it... because in all honesty when I look at how Boy 1 was in the early days, and how he is today I know what we did was right, I know he is far beyond what any of those outsiders thought he could ever be, I know he is growing into an incredible young man, one his parents always knew he would be.

So, question our approach all you like, mock, deride, or just keep that mind closed. For we have our justification, we have our confirmation... we have a wonderful, confident, happy son who has Asperger Syndrome. Just look at the smiling kid from the photos in the last post.

That is all.

9 comments:

Suzi said...

As one of Gucci's early intervention teachers said to me, 'Never give up, always trust your instincts as nobody knows your child like you do.' She was right. I once sobbed when I was told my son would have a life long 'moderate intellectual disability' now you can hardly tell the difference between him and his peers.
xx

Georgia said...

I am completely with you onthis. How anyone can think that they know what is best for YOUR child baffles me. They don't live your life nor face the challenges or the wonders of your life. They may be experts in their field, but they are not experts in your life. Kepp doing what you're doing, it's obviously paying off.

Alex said...

Well said Georgia - "They may be experts in their field, but they are not experts in your life".

Leanne said...

Yep, you are definitely best placed to determine the needs of your child. You're doing an amazing job MM and clearly it's working ...

Melissa said...

I wasn't mocking or deriding you. I said I can't fathom it for MY child. That is all.

Apples and Autobots said...

No one knows your child better than you do.

Apples and Autobots said...

I think blogger ate my comment! I just wanted to agree that no one knows your child better than you do.

Madmother said...

Firstly, Melissa it is not all about you. No, I did not like your twisting of my comment into "I could not fathom calling Alexander a retard" when it was perfectly clear that is not what I was doing, but there are multiple factors in this post.

In fact yours, knowing you and the advocating you do for your child, was little to do with this.

Melissa said...

I'm sorry if I misunderstood. I wasn't trying to twist your comment. I guess it's just one of those words that upsets me becasue it was aimed at Alexander when he was little and I was so shattered at the time.

I agree, you know your child best and have always been his best advocate. I'm sorry if I upset you. I'm a little oversensitive atm.