The Last Post

On this topic anyway.

I keep thinking it is over. Done.

I keep thinking she has finally moved on.

And then, the ugly head is raised again.

Yesterday I had to have a talk with someone. Yesterday I had to once more explain I had not said something she had blamed me for. Yesterday I had to attempt to right a wrong and warn an innocent party to shield themselves from the poison.

Once upon a time I would have shuffled past, head bowed, unable to look the other in the eye. At the worst of the bullshit, when it was still only me, I would have kept my mouth shut, locked in my own bizarre world where my word was my code and I vowed not to stoop to her level.

But this time, instead of being angry and feeling persecuted, I am merely disgusted.Now I see silence is not being honourable, it is not letting others to make an informed decision. So I am silent no more. When (as I was three days ago), I am told of her attacks and lies I now seek out the person the poison has been poured out to, and tell my side. I have given up any hope of her admitting her words and actions, and in a twisted way, count my blessings her mouth blabbed so much, and that she spoke those horrific words to so many. For now it is not my word against hers, it is mine and J's and M's and Big Boy's (which surprisingly, I only discovered yesterday that she had said this particular nasty jibe in person to...) and many others.

It is sad that this continues, it is really nasty that others are still being fed this absolute garbage. And it has reached the point where action has to be taken. Some suggest mediation, but my issue with this is she would refuse to attend. My husband wants us to take the legal path, as people are willing to make statements, support us, tell the truth of what has been said to them. It is slander, plain and simple. And we can prove the fiduciary cost.

I honestly have not decided where to from here. Is it merely making a very sick woman's life intolerable? Will it make her stop, for she is not sensible or logical or even, in my opinion, very smart. To continue this behaviour for 2 & 1/2 years... that is not the act of an intelligent woman. Especially when her actions have now cost her so very many friends. All due to her own actions. And will continue to do so, for it is a very obvious pattern.

BFF's
New person introduced.
New person moved to BFF status.
Turn on old BFF.
Attack.

This lady I had to speak to was the first one I witnessed this cycle with, I was the new BFF. This genteel, softly spoken woman was wooed back AFTER everything fell apart for the nasty one. When so many had walked away as the scales fell from their eyes. When the liar looked around and saw so few. She is far more forgiving than I, or maybe just unaware of how toxic the words  bandied about were. Words aimed at her family, not just herself.

After I walked away from our discussion, I knew there was so much more I could have told her, and probably much I was not clear on. I worried that I didn't explain myself enough, that I hadn't clarified things I should have.

And then I realised, I had told her my truth, I had given her my version of the words I was accused of, and could do no more. And if she chose to risk herself and her family by maintaining the relationship, then that was not my business. Her battle, is not my battle. And I had done all I could by being honest and speaking to her as soon as I was aware of the lies.

Now is the time to let it be, for I have said my piece. Until the next shard of poison pierces another...

Tell It Like It Is Award - the Second Ceremony. WARNING - NOT FOR THE FAINT-HEARTED!

I think a quick refresher about this unique award and the rules governing it is in order before I bestow it onto my newly chosen recipients. So use this link, go read up peoples... I'll wait. I may be sleep-deprived but I am patient. Sometimes.

And now, *drum roll*, let the ceremonies begin...




There are two worthy nominees, and as with the preceeding award celebrations this means two winners:

Travis at I Like To Fish
and
Alex at WHOA-MUMMA!

Travis is a new find, thanks to Alex and a few other bloggers and  Alex is a welcome return to the blogging world. Both straight-shooters, tell no crap sorta bloggers.
Hope you both agree to receive this award in the tone it is given.

Rules are:


1.This award is for the straight-shooters. The "tell it to someone who gives a fuck" bloggers who don't let the ignorant minority dictate to them. As a certain commenter from my last post put it (and something a dear friend called me a few years back) the ones who call a spade a fucking shovel!


2.The recipients of the award (and I hesitiate to use the word winners as it is not some type of lame-arsed competition, it is merely a show of appreciation for the blogger who doesn't pretty up the harsh realities) do NOT have to pass it on! If you wish to, great! Means I get to find some new no-bullshit blogs. If not, meh, not my problem.


3.This is not to be passed on to anyone who cannot handle the heat. You know, the bloggers who post one controversial topic, get blasted, and so delete it whilst whining "youse are all bitches" under their breath. If you write it, own it! Note: exception to this rule is if you post something in anger which hurts those you love. Not anonymous, faceless bloggers or followers, but someone you genuinely care for, and realise later when you have calmed that it was not acceptable to blog about. We have all done this at one time or another.


4.This award is not to be awarded for just being nasty! It is for those blunt, honest, sometimes brutal bloggers who post from passion, not spite.


5.Link me! After all I am an attention seeking bitch according to some...

 
 

Tell It Like It Is Award. WARNING - NOT FOR THE FAINT-HEARTED!

I have taken a leaf out of Mel over at Sugar Coat It's blog (yeah, I know it should be book, but if I wrote book I'd have to admit to plagiarising...) and created my own award. So now all I have to do is set the rules!

1. This award is for the straight-shooters. The "tell it to someone who gives a fuck" bloggers who don't let the ignorant minority dictate to them. As a certain commenter from my last post put it (and something a dear friend called me a few years back) the ones who call a spade a fucking shovel!
2. The receivers of the award (and I hesitiate to use the word winners as it is not some type of lame-arsed competition, it is merely a show of appreciation for the blogger who doesn't pretty up the harsh realities) do NOT have to pass it on! If you wish to, great! Means I get to find some new no-bullshit blogs. If not, meh, not my problem.
3. This is not to be passed on to anyone who cannot handle the heat. You know, the bloggers who post one controversial topic, get blasted, and so delete it whilst whining "youse are all bitches" under their breath. If you write it, own it! Note: exception to this rule is if you post something in anger which hurts those you love. Not anonymous, faceless bloggers or followers, but someone you genuinely care for, and realise later when you have calmed that it was not acceptable to blog about. We have all done this at one time or another.
4. This award is not to be awarded for just being nasty! It is for those blunt, honest, sometimes brutal bloggers who post from passion, not spite.
5. Link me! After all I am an attention seeking bitch according to some...

Boring shit over, now on to the inaugural proceedings!

Firstly, we need a presenter, and who better than the original boss of the brutal, blunt brigade:

We use words like honor, code, loyalty. We use these words as the backbone of a life spent defending something. You use them as a punchline...

You can't handle the truth!

~ Col. Jessop A Few Good Men (1992) ~

Now for the award:

 I am not including pithy little remarks or cutesy summations of these sites, if you are curious go read for yourself. 

• Chrissy @ I Shoulda Been a Stripper
• Kitty @ Shrinking Kitty
• Maggie @ Mind of A Mad Woman
• Epskee @ Barrel of Monkeez

Now Epskee, I know you have objections to blog awards, but let's face it, this one is unique. You don't have to do anything, it is not a popularity thing (mind you, it could be put into the piss people off or unpopular award category, lol), and hey, I know these get under your craw... Cheeky, ain't I?

That is it people - now go forth and blog.