Monday, August 23, 2010

A Reminder of What True Friendship Is All About...

Some time ago (in January), I posted about the very special friendship my oldest shares with his best mate of nearly a decade. It was in response to a writers' workshop challenge, and the brief was as follows:

(yes, this is a link to the post)

 
This weekend has once again reminded me of how truly blessed we are to be witnesses to this amazing relationship.


It was Boy 2's eleventh birthday last Friday. In keeping with our usual standards it was bigger than Ben Hur. Well, actually it was smaller than other years, and I had requested it to be lower key but somewhere my interpretation and Boy 2's became very different. Roll around last Friday afternoon, six extra boys invade arrive at our home for Nerf Wars. You may well ask, "What, pray tell, are Nerf Wars?" Nerf Wars are the result of my Machiavellian younger child devising a strategy game with two opposing teams, red and blue, four boys on each. A nerf gun is presented as their party gift on arrival (love toy sales - these cost less than the usual offering of lollies, stickers and novelties), as is a t-shirt in the team colour. Two massive timber bases have been constructed on our almost 3 acres of heaven, masses of foam bullets bought, turret and large guns in place at each base, Boy 2 designed logo with team name installed on each courtesy of laminated print outs (gotta love publisher); rules outlined, all systems go, go, go!

At least that was the theory until the rain Gods decided Friday was to be cold, damp and dangerously slippery...

This meant we had seven boys running screaming, yelling and shooting INSIDE, and one boy having trouble with sensory overload. Boy 1 pushed himself well outside his comfort zone, joining in the last minute training and target practice set up by Big Boy, but struggled to keep his demons under control in the bedlam. His best mate stayed by his side, running interference when necessary, helping Boy 1 to enjoy the games instead of merely coping with the games. It was a sleep over, and with the promise of a clear Saturday all were happy in the knowledge that morning would bring the true game. However, chaos ruled the night.

Boy 1's mate C is a popular kid. All others wanted to be near him, clamoured for him to join them in their late night mayhem. But C is a child of loyalty and strength. He does not bow to peer pressure or demands. He knows his friend well, and realised Boy 1 needed quiet time. So whilst six boys sat in one room loudly interacting whilst watching Clash of the Titans, C and his friend sat in the other, watching The Spiderwick Chronicles. When six manic boys bunked down in the spare room, C and his best mate withdrew to Boy 1's bedroom to read, talk and get some sleep. C politely declined the loud catcalls for him, he rebuffed the physical attempts to drag him into the other area, and told them in no uncertain terms he was staying put. With his mate.

Thanks to his actions, it was a very relaxed Boy 1 joining in the revelry the next morning. Eight boys running, shooting foam bullets, yelling, weaving, ducking, screaming. You would have been hard pressed to pick the one with autism. But you wouldn't have had trouble picking the two best mates. They stood, back to back defeating all unrelenting attacks. Just as they always have.





Nerf Wars rule!

6 comments:

E. said...

Boy 1 and C are just so lucky to have each other. Everytime I read one of these posts I have hope that my Boy Child will one day have a friend like C.

Glad Boy 2 had a great party! A belated Happy Birthday to him.

Jen said...

That is so wonderful MM. THe friendship between Boy1 and C warms my heart. I can only dream that K will have someone like this. Sounds like C saved the day/ party and that you pulled off an awesome birthday bash :)

Kakka said...

That bought tears to my eyes MM - how I wish my son had had a friend like Boy 1 to stand by him through the years. C is truly an amazing young man and unfortunately probably one of a kind - clone him if you can. So glad Boy 2 had a fantastic birthday. xxx

Cate P said...

What a great idea for a party and what a friggin fantastic mate your son has. He is one special person to recognise what friendship means at a young age. He's a keeper.

Ro said...

What a fabulous friend Boy 1 has, both of them are really blessed :)

Mrs Midnite said...

Almost in tears, what a lovely litle boy and how I wish my nephew had a friend like him.